Inside the mind of a woman

Is sex really overrated? On the other hand, is any kind of physical intimacy between two people overrated?

This guy is going out with this girl. Let’s just say that he is courting her (courting in the old fashioned way I must say). So they go out, have lunch or dinner together, they watch movies, or go to the mall together. However, they are not “exclusive”. Ok fine – the girl has not yet said yes to a commitment with him. That should be ok right.

So its now a couple of months into the courtship and it has evolved. The couple gets closer, they hold hands, sometimes they kiss or hug. Eventually, they become intimate. But the words “I love you” have never been released from the girl’s mouth. The commitment is still a no-no. The guy gets confused. How come with all the skin thats touching – he could still not call it a relationship? How come, he couldn’t call her his girlfriend? Show her off to his friends?

There are still people these days who fool themselves into thinking that women do not get involved intimately with someone unless there is a committed relationship between them. I can only say, why not women?

Women do not have the luxury to pursue men. Well in true pinoy culture, it is still taboo for Filipina’s to openly pursue men for a relationship. Ha! Contradict all you want. Even though we are in the year 2007, many still look down on women who are too forward. Let’s all be real here.

So how can women grow their feelings for the men they date if they do not allow themselves to become close to them. Can we not hold hands with them and later on decide we do not want to spend the rest of our lives with them? Can we not kiss them goodnight and not be condemned for it if later on we decide to see other people we are more attracted to? Its hell to have to end up with someone you cannot even bear to kiss. Imagine making love to that person.

I still think the thought that – sex is indicative of the status of a relationship – is what makes it highly overrated. Sometimes, it really is only just about sex.