The first time is never fun
I have somehow acquired the habit of listening to Mo Twister’s program on 89.9 every morning. I find their morning banter and bashing refreshing to my often sleepy morning. It beats two cups of coffee at least. I also find their topics quite interesting and silly at times that you just cant help but listen and laugh at all the funny anecdotes that other listeners share over the radio.
There was one such discussion that I listened to one day that really made me think to the "first time". You see I never think that other people would ever have similar experiences that I have. Many would probably like to think that their lives and emotions are unique that it doesn’t cross their minds that others may have gone through the same thing (or is that called denial?). Anyway, I couldn’t recall specifically what the topic was but I distinctly remember Grace Lee saying – It always sucks the first time or something like, the first time is never enjoyable.
And I stopped to think – wow, I am not alone. So I say to all those who wonder and are fantasizing about how wonderful their first time will be… how different and unique their experience will become.. you are in for a rude awakening. Unless you live in a perfect world any one of these can happen to you.
You are both virgins and he is clumsy as hell. He has no idea where to start pleasing you and the minute you touch him, he comes.
He has tons of experience and the mileage to back it up. He has the touch and of course the moves. But experience thins the patience and your pain is suddenly his ecstasy. The amount of lotion or lube that he pours down on you is never enough to bring you to 7th heaven. And as you start to feel some semblance of desire, it is over.
In the real world, I wonder if anyone’s dreams have ever been fulfilled? What do you think?
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Even better,
Here is a better angle.
Men with stiletto heel fetish. Women say they wear them to be sexy or taller
but deep down they want the attention of men and they know that this method works.
Oh, don’t ever complement them about it (as I have about 1,000 times). They usually give you the strangest look and are at a loss of what to say. This is what I call the “East Coast Method” of responding to compliments from men. This may be caused by bad experiences with men (abuse patterns, etc). It may also be insecurity about themselves that they can’t accept someone paying them attention in a POSITIVE sense. Many may have been told all their lives that they were unattractive or they can only appeal to men on a sexual level.
(never thought you would see this from a man, ha)
Then there is the “Midwest” method. You say something positive. You get a smile, a handshade, a return compliment or something that indicate pleasure in the compliment. I love midwestern women. If only we can get them to do something about their speech pattern, the world would truly be a better place
My first time (Anthony from Ypsi)
My male roommate bought me a 40oz of Malt Liquor. I drank half and put away the rest for later. I went maybe 200 feet and knocked on her down. Her name was Jackie (first floor). We both got naked and no matter how many pornographic magazines or movies I had watched, I ended up on top. My back was feeling it when we were done. That was about 5 – 10 minutes later.
Oh, I forget to say. She had more experience than I. She may have been with over 50 guys which is why I chose her over someone else. I was insecure and figured why go for the attractive woman who would probably say no. Go for the “hoe” and you will have no problems. She didn’t know it was my first time.
A few days and more sex later, she told me she had been sexually assaulted by her stepfather as a child. I didn’t want to get emotionally involved with this woman but how could you not feel something about her after she drops that bomb.
I have always wondered why she had many sexual partners. Was it free will, an expression of womanhood and individual happiness or was she looking to fill the void created by the bastard stepfather? I hope it was free will yet I doubt it.
I doubt if any first time will be great for that subject matter. =(
There’s always an element of awkwardness with anything first-time, as well as the excitement. My first sexual encounter actually left me with funny memories because there had been a lot of “bloopers”. But yeah, it’s hard to forget the first guy.
Tess – I doubt I will forget my first time but not because there was fireworks or anything. If you know what I mean
Janette – Makes me feel “normal” to realize that more and more people have a similar experience.
Here’s for variety: I DON’T remember the first time.
I remember the guy, but I was too drunk to remember what happened. I think I’m one of the “lucky” ones since there are no memories of pain or awkwardness.
shine – You are lucky. No disillusions. No disappointments. The pain was bearable. The disappointment was more memorable than anything.
haha! correction, i never said there were no disillusions or disappointments for that matter. imagine, waking up not remembering what happened the previous night and your asshole of a boyfriend denying everything. i think disillusions and disappointments all come with knowing more about the opposite sex and not the actual sex. sex is great! haha!
Shine – Right on!
sad to say, i too am one of the unfortunate ones. really, it wasn’t fun. AT.ALL.
well, it may have somethin’ to do with 1. him being experienced and be done with it in just minutes, or 2. the uneasiness of doing it in his parents’ house (with his parents around) or even 3. being sooo dead tired and sleepy (so much for a better timing. heh) or maybe, ALL of the above. hehe
joan – Ohmy combine first time sex with doing it at his parents house is a total killer or total upper!
haha. i know, right?! wheew!
but now, i soooo can relate with ur fubu thing. *wink* haha
well, ours is like fwends with benefits thingie.. =) (not so shy to admit it huh) hehe
joan – Yeah. Why be shy! Women rule!