Marrying young
My hubby and I attended his colleague’s wedding the other day and I was more than a bit surprised to find out that the groom was only 25 years old. That doesn’t mean I think its bad, its just that in this day and age, I kind of expect people to get married at a later age compared to when our parents did during their time.
Most of my friends and other people I know are either not yet married or just got hitched and my age group is already at the 3-oh. I have observed that at 25, men (and women) are too busy with their careers, travel, partying, or just simply living so that later on, they can settle down without regrets. So I am pleasantly surprised so witness two people make a lifetime commitment to each other. It is such a refreshing thought and gives me hope that the world has not become entirely cynical.
Realistically though, 25? When I was 25, I recall being too busy discovering the world, so to speak that although settling down was foremost on my mind, there was no one I felt compelled to be with for the rest of my life. Back then, I was mostly concerned about finding out what I truly wanted in a partner as my track record on relationships did not look promising. You could define cliche with how my relationships played out. It took me another 5 years and a love child before I could even think about surrendering myself to married life.
Now, I would never recommend getting married at a young (yes, 25 is still young) age, especially to men. Since men are built differently, they are more inclined to play at 25 than most women. Sometimes they don’t stop playing even when they get to 35 (right?). Not that I think its wrong to marry that early but I truly believe that men need more mileage in their lives before they achieve the level of maturity necessary to stay sane after settling down. Ok, ok most men!
I do recommend the same for women. In fact, women should seek to achieve the same before deciding to get married. Yes, they grow up preparing for it (think drama queen).
How old were you when you got married?
true! 25 is still young
got engaged at 28 and married at 29 
the hubby is a year older.
liz – Nowadays, I see more and more people wait until they are a bit older, a bit more mature before getting married. I know several who are oblivious to the pressures of singlehood the way women have been for a long time. I never thought I would say this but getting married at 25 is now outside the norm (at least for me).
Can a guy comment here? I’m 30 by December this year, and still no plans of getting married. My brother tied the knots at 24, after graduation – after I had him finished college hehe. Inunahan pa nya kuya nya. And now I’m left with 2 more siblings to send to college. My target is 35.
Are you a professional journalist? You write very well.
Jun – Of course you can comment here. In fact, anyone who can relate or who has a personal opinion is very much welcome. Personally, a guy at 30 is still young. 35 is better but even 40 is ok. As long as you know what you want and are ready in all aspects to settle down. Cheers!
Amen! 25 is young. 30-35 is okay
Amy – Agree!
Hi! I got married at 22, mu husband was 28. Nowadays, getting married at 22 is not advisable, especially if you are ambitious and wanted to do more in life. My advise to young people out there is to take their time, find the right person and be ready financially. : ) But some people like me are lucky…although we married young…we are still going strong….and very happy.
Nice blog..keep up the good work!
Abby – You are lucky indeed. Getting married is a very serious decision and we must admit these days, 22 is not an age where we can find many that are ready to be serious. I do admire those who dive in and rise to the challenge. Continue keeping the flames alive! Cheers!
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hello apple, i am still single. but i already have a child. i got pregnant at 21,and i don’t want to get married just because I am pregnant. I don’t wanna get married for the wrong reasons and I am happy that I didn’t. haha
Joanne – Good for you! Getting pregnant should not be a cause for marriage. It just might cause problems later on in your marriage, if you did it for the wrong reasons. Cheers!