Long distance relationships
Its six days until V-day and the most asked question has been about how are couples celebrating valentines day. But not everyone is making reservations at Le Souffle. Like my friend K. Her boyfriend is in the States, has been for the past two years, and she is used to spending valentines at home like any other normal day.
It wasn’t that she was spending valentines at home but her long distance relationship that got us chatting excitedly. I personally do not get involved in long distance relationships so I asked her - Is it worth it?
She stopped for a minute and told me that it worked for her because she knew what she was getting into at the start of the relationship. She guessed it would be hard if you were used to seeing each other a lot and then at some point one has to leave, like go to the States.
I don’t believe in long distance relationships. I mean, I don’t believe it will work me. I have a hard time imagining that I can build an emotional attachment with someone a thousand miles away. Not to mention the thought of not being able to touch or feel. Especially for someone like me who finds comfort in being hugged when I am having a bad day.
But I know a lot of people who seem to make it work. I guess it depends on what you are willing to give up or take.
Are you in a long distance relationship? So… is it worth it?
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I think it has to do with those persons love language. If they need a physical attachment then a long dist relationship wouldn’t work. Personally, I agree with you in that they normally fail for some reason or another.
That said I’ve been proven wrong by my friends who cross-continent video-chat and have a “healthy” relationship. (I only put healthy in quotes because they haven’t touched each other in months…but the health is really for them to decide - not me)
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While long distance relationships can work for some, I agree that they aren’t right for everyone. I met my husband through a personal ad on the net in 1994. We were 10,000 miles apart. It took us 3 years to be on the same continent but it was certainly worth it.
blargumentor - Love language… makes me think of love song.
but you are right. Some people are just ok with long distance relationships. I guess these kinds of relationships have what they are looking for.
FeelingFlirty - Good for you! But see, although it took a while, eventually you still found a way to be together right? I guess long distance is not a permanent thing and as long as couples think of it that way, they are ok.
i don’t believe in long distance relationships as well. i don’t know how you can deepen a relationship without having your partner there to share day to day experiences with you.
but then, different strokes, different folks.
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hi dr_clairebear - (rhymes with carebear.. kidding!) Thanks for dropping by!
I feel the same way about long distance relationships. I am the type who creates a deeper relationship with someone by regular walks and talks. Although it may happen that I get attracted to someone miles away, I still see no lasting factor in that. But that’s me.
yeah…long distance relationship is indeed very very difficult.There are times that I almost gave up but I can’t. I love him so much and I cannot afford to let my negative emotions ruin our relationship. I know being distant to one another is not permanent.Its good to take the benefit of having good times with family and friends, but still its really different when you can hug the one you love especially when you are down.
We constantly communicate and I cannot afford not to talk/chat/text with him for more than 24-hours.The feeling is like losing him already.
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Beth - Cheers to your strength and willpower. Its because of people like you that long distance relationships last.
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Could I please ask that you consider removing the post above? It appears verbatim on a couple of other websites and was obviously posted to embarass this person by using their real name. Thank you.
barb - not sure what you mean? Although I did see the same comment in another blog post about long distance relationships. Could it be that this person is looking for some answers and still have not gotten them?
Apples H. More likely the person using her name is trying to embarass her as they have done elsewhere on the internet.
Thanks for the info barb but pardon my ignorance as partly the reason I did not notice anything about the comment is that I am not familiar who kari dean is. I’ll search the net but who exactly are we referring to here?
I’d rather not elaborate on this board, I emailed an explanation. Should I resend?
Yes please resend to apples at haravata dot com. I dont think I got it.
I emailed to the above address and received no response
I emailed to the above address and received no response.
Kari Dean is a Registered Representative for American Family Securities, LLC Mesa, AZ.
Kari Dean is a recruiting supervisor at enterprise rent a car in Lubbock, TX.
Kari L. Dean is a writer for Wired Magazine.
barb - I got your note thanks. And I removed the related comment. Thanks for your feedback.