From an article in Metro Magazine Feb 2007 Edition:

On Bed Friend forever…

…ironic as it may seem , it is precisely this set-up that gives the arrangement a certain sense of propriety and honesty. There are no expectations, and more importantly, there is no duplicity. I am not using sex in the hopes of someday getting him to commit, and neither is he pretending that what we have between us is something more than just sex. There are no illusions. Were both very much aware that the sex, no matter how hot or how wild, doesn’t give either of us license to expect or demand. We respect that we have our own lives, totally separate from each other. He cant always come at the drop of my panties. And neither can I always drop everything when I get a booty call. I cant configure my plans around a possible night in bed on the off chance that he might be free, but that’s just the way it is. It’s a form of self-preservation, necessary in relationships of any kind. At least this way you don’t get attached. You cant after all, fall in love with someone you don’t know very well. “

I am sure that many have heard of the term F.U.B.U. No it’s not the clothing brand that I am talking about. When I first learned about what it meant, I felt left out… like I was the last to know… and that was years ago.

Now, everywhere I turn there’s always a small possibility of bumping into someone involved in this kind of a relationship.

I know a lot of people though who would snort in disdain or raise their eyebrows at the thought of indulging a fubu. In our pinoy community, there are many fubu relationships but few ever confess openly.

I heard one woman say – “how could any woman allow herself to be trapped in a situation like that? Lugi sya don”. Common. Cliché. But I say – why use the words trapped? Or “lugi” for that matter. Who says the woman is the victim? It would not normally cross anyone’s mind that women do have their needs too, including sex. And if for some reason that need is satisfied by having a sexual relationship without the burden of commitment then who are we to say nay to it.

And that is why I appreciate what was written in that article. It brings to light the challenges women have dealing with their own sexual needs and desires. The world is easy to chastise and utterly unforgiving in this kind of scenario, that most tend to hide behind pseudo nicks and alter egos.

But what we all have to realize is that yearning for connection is something that is characteristic of all of humanity – regardless of sex.

And connection is not synonymous to commitment or love.

A soft touch, a caress, a warm naked body spooning yours, a kiss on the nape, hot breath in your ears, legs tangled up with your own.

…Sometimes it’s only just about sex.

(c)

***Picture courtesy of fionski

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Born on the 13th day (not sure if it was a Friday) under the sign of Cancer

Named after a saint

Late-bloomer but once started never stopped

Graduated 4th in college

I believe that tampons are a girl’s best friend

Licensed non-practicing engineer (in high heels)

i bite my nails to their bleeding point

absolutely love chocolates and keep a stock handy but it takes me ages to finish them

hate to eat ampalaya (even if my best friend cooks it)

I don’t eat curry

I can eat pasta all day long but I abhor pesto

Diet soda is my life (although not because I’m on a diet)

My oxygen is coffee

Rice is my saviour

I love cheese but hate blue cheese

I could drown in caesar’s salad and die happy

I am not fat.. I just happen to have big boobs and a big butt

I’m nearsighted and wear lenses with a 3.0 grade

Walk on heels but cry for painful toes

I could live without audio CDs but I’d kill you if you took my tv

Skilled at sleeping on a queen-size bed without disrupting the sheets

Always wears a watch

Does not go out without earrings

I used to own 75 pairs of shoes all at one time that my friends would call me Macys

Detest loud screaming music

Very much skilled woman-driver (eh you didn’t expect there would be one?)

I only got into one collision accident in all my 8 years of driving and that was when a stupid truck driver failed to put on breaks on rear-ended me

I have never changed a tire although have had flat tires several times (go figure)

I have a beautiful penmanship but choosy with pens and papers that I use

No animal lover here

Drinks ice water

Great cook

Quick-study

Lipstick is my enemy

I am vermiphobic

I don’t like inconveniencing anyone and hate causing scenes

Pink is my favorite color

I front-acted for an APO Hiking Society concert with a dance number

I have a collection of SIDE A albums

I enjoy reading FHM (along with my husband)

My scent has always been and will remain to be Banana Republic Woman

I hate rain

I love the beach but I have never been to Boracay

Lived and worked in the US for 15 months and hated every minute of it

Don’t know how to swim

Naturally athletic and excel in many sports

I have secrets not a single soul knows

I have a trophy in Billiards and a gold medal in track and field

Love libraries and bookstores

Bought the first four Harry Potter hard bound books for $0.99 each

I love performing in front of an audience and have no trouble speaking to a group

Passionate about the things that matter to me most

Hugs make me forget the pain

I only ask for help as a last resort or at the last breathe and not a second earlier

I never forget the past

I secretly dream of living in a house with a grand staircase

My husband is my rock and my kids are my strength

I don’t think I can list every little detail about me but if I do remember some strange thing that maybe only my shadow knows then I might add it to the above list. In the meantime, that about just sums me up.

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I first saw the store while going around Glorietta. The store looked expensive. Since I was a frequent shopper at Beauty Bar, I could just imagine the prices that this store’s wares cost. I did not attempt to even browse as that time I was broke and payday was still eons away.

Yesterday, while waiting for sweetie to finish his shoot, I was left to stroll around the Eastwood City Mall for quite a while and so I did. A brightly-lit store with white walls beckoned to me. I walked over and discovered it was The Face Shop. A cosmetics store much like Body shop or Beauty Bar.

I intended to just browse around to look at what they had and to see how expensive it really was. I was disappointed. All the stuff they sold were very much affordable. Their lipglosses cost from P195 up. Their tube foundation and makeup base cost about P300++. Their most expensive item were just short of P1000. What the??

My insides were jumping with joy. I have been looking for an alternative to my expensive cosmetics stock and here was one so affordable yet catered to my exact needs.

I tried out the foundation and it came on smooth on my skin - not at all greasy. Their lip gloss was divine and perfect for my skin tone! Plus - their makeup (and skincare items) come in cool packaging! How about that? Definitely a thumbs up!

(C)

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I absolutely looove Grey’s Anatomy.

It was a blessing in disguise that I happen to be stuck to the couch with nothing to do but watch TV that time the show first aired (I was on maternity leave). Since then I have followed episode after episode of the series.

I especially love the voice over of Meredith Gray (played by Ellen Pompeo). So SATC style. I also love the fast-paced wit being thrown all around the hospital floor. I adore George’s clumsiness and Izzie’s childish flirtiness. I feel like Cristina is the one I wanna be when I grow up and McDreamy, the one I want to shag every night of my life.

Too bad, I don’t have time to watch it regularly now as my badminton games are also scheduled on the same night. I wonder what happened to Cristina’s pregnancy.. to George’s crush on Meredith.. and to McDreamy’s getting back together with his wife.

I wonder who the scriptwriter of this series is. I would like to shake his or her hand…or maybe kiss their feet.

I miss SATC so much that I’m glad something came up that is equally good.

In the O.R., time loses all meaning… In the midst of sutures and saving lives, the clock ceases to matter… 15 minutes, 15 hours. Inside the O.R. the best surgeons make time fly. Outside the O.R., however, time takes pleasure in kicking our asses. For even the strongest of us, it seems to play tricks. Slowing down, hovering, until it freezes. Leaving us stuck in a moment, unable to move in one direction or the other.

— Voiceover by Meredith Gray

Grey’s Anatomy airs every Wednesday at 9PM at Starworld.

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I am now only sitting down in front of my laptop, my mind still alive with thoughts of the last few hours when I was at the blogparteeh. I wanted to write everything down so I will not forget anything. I will not attempt to structure this post.. so it might seem like the words flowing directly from my brain into my fingers…

Sorry for being late. There were a lot of bloggers there already when I arrived.

I looove the goodie bag. First of all because I still received one despite being late. And second, it was a BIG paper goodie bag. Ooooh! And I also love that I won a Google shirt which was sequestered by my hubby. I also love getting Bo Sanchez’s books and a GMA coffee mug (I am after all a coffee addict). And last but not the least - A box of Krispy Kremes! I was lucky I got to the line just before the boxes disappeared into the outstretched hands of other bloggers. Yummy!

Ohmy, I was called in front to say a bit about my blog. Yikes! I didnt expect it. Hehehe

I was surprised when someone pushed a paper in front of me and asked me to sign beside my name. I thought it was for registration purposes. But what the? The next 3 people I was introduced to did the same thing. Late kasi ako di ko alam.

I met some really awesome peeps tonite:
AJ - who won the most coveted IPOD (swerte!)
Jozzua or Elymar - one of those seated with us
Liz - nice meeting you!
Shari - kulet! nice meeting you too!
Mae - sweet-looking gal. nice meeting you!
Joni - thanks for bearing with my kwentos. Sayang talaga di ka nagsoftware devt. Tsk tsk! Kamusta date?
Eugene - ever so quiet. Hmmm…
Ganns - MisterDean. Outrageously funny. The only guy I know who’s more excited about winning Bubba Gump rather than the IPOD. Uyy best friends na sila…
Marcelle - the great magician. I was literally open mouthed as I watched all the forks go this way and that. I believe my hubby got your number. I’ve got a lot of married friends who would enjoy having you at their kids’ parties.
Geri - the luckiest guy in the group who’s ID number was called like… a thousand times (exagg!)
Marhgil - forgive me but I will never forget you although I know we crossed paths only once so I could sign your sheet - I messed up pronouncing your name kasi! I automatically start saying MarkGil. Your name is a real tongue twister eh?
Pierre - the world suddenly got smaller when I found out you worked in the same company Ive been slaving in for more than 8 years (going 9). Hope you get your desire to go into Law. Good luck!

And of course it was great meeting (or catching up) with those from the steering committee:

Abe, Jayvee, Kevin/Kiven (ano ba talaga), Jomar, Migs (old friend!), Noemi…

The parteeh was a success. Great job to everyone involved with getting this together.

Tags: Blog Parteeh 07

(C)

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