From an article in Metro Magazine Feb 2007 Edition:
On Bed Friend forever…
…ironic as it may seem , it is precisely this set-up that gives the arrangement a certain sense of propriety and honesty. There are no expectations, and more importantly, there is no duplicity. I am not using sex in the hopes of someday getting him to commit, and neither is he pretending that what we have between us is something more than just sex. There are no illusions. Were both very much aware that the sex, no matter how hot or how wild, doesn’t give either of us license to expect or demand. We respect that we have our own lives, totally separate from each other. He cant always come at the drop of my panties. And neither can I always drop everything when I get a booty call. I cant configure my plans around a possible night in bed on the off chance that he might be free, but that’s just the way it is. It’s a form of self-preservation, necessary in relationships of any kind. At least this way you don’t get attached. You cant after all, fall in love with someone you don’t know very well. “
I am sure that many have heard of the term F.U.B.U. No it’s not the clothing brand that I am talking about. When I first learned about what it meant, I felt left out… like I was the last to know… and that was years ago.
Now, everywhere I turn there’s always a small possibility of bumping into someone involved in this kind of a relationship.
I know a lot of people though who would snort in disdain or raise their eyebrows at the thought of indulging a fubu. In our pinoy community, there are many fubu relationships but few ever confess openly.
I heard one woman say – “how could any woman allow herself to be trapped in a situation like that? Lugi sya donâ€. Common. Cliché. But I say – why use the words trapped? Or “lugi†for that matter. Who says the woman is the victim? It would not normally cross anyone’s mind that women do have their needs too, including sex. And if for some reason that need is satisfied by having a sexual relationship without the burden of commitment then who are we to say nay to it.
And that is why I appreciate what was written in that article. It brings to light the challenges women have dealing with their own sexual needs and desires. The world is easy to chastise and utterly unforgiving in this kind of scenario, that most tend to hide behind pseudo nicks and alter egos. 
But what we all have to realize is that yearning for connection is something that is characteristic of all of humanity – regardless of sex.
And connection is not synonymous to commitment or love.
A soft touch, a caress, a warm naked body spooning yours, a kiss on the nape, hot breath in your ears, legs tangled up with your own.
…Sometimes it’s only just about sex.
(c)
***Picture courtesy of fionski
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