Re-posted from apples-pie.

I read something about marriage and how Will Smith feels about it in a post in this Blog.

Apparently, he was interviewed by Reader’s Digest and one of the topics they discussed in the interview was his relationship with Jada, his wife.

RD: You and Jada have been married nine years and, by all accounts, are very happy. What’s the key?

Smith: Communication. And divorce cannot be an option.

RD: Your first marriage ended in divorce.

Smith: That is probably the most painful loss of my life. I quit. I could have fixed it. It really was not that bad.

RD: Some people would say there’s no reason to stay if a marriage isn’t good.

Smith: Once you say that, you’ve lost. With Jada, I stood up in front of God and my family and friends and said, “Till death do us part.” So there are two possible outcomes: we are going to be together till death, or I am dead.

RD: But people do have problems.

Smith: Jada and I have problems; everybody has them. People ask, “What happens if you made a mistake?” Well, you should be a little more careful before you stand up in front of God and your family and friends and say, “Till death do us part.”

I don’t want to say that its rare for people in showbiz-ness to display that kind of commitment as that would be discriminating so let me just point out that separation and divorce nowadays is highly common. So common it is that it makes you think that couples go into a relationship with the notion that it would only be temporary.

I guess it’s refreshing to read Will’s point of views.

I wanted to point out some things he said that I totally agree with.

Divorce cannot be an option. If you enter into a marriage or any other relationship for that matter with the feeling that everything will end sooner or later, then you just killed that relationship. We all say that nothing in this world is temporary. But hey – you don’t have to take it literally! You should not even entertain the thought of separation and just continue to live your life with the one you love.

Some people would say there’s no reason to stay if a marriage isn’t good. Let me tell you now, those who think that marriage is all wine and roses are in for a very very big surprise. The day after the marriage ceremony would be the day when the wine spills and the roses dry up. Everyone has to open their eyes and take marriage for what it is - a lot of responsibility, a lot of work, a lot of heartache… but it doesn’t have to be without a lot of love and happiness. No marriage is all good and happily ever after is just for Cinderella.

I don’t want to be Cinderella (not anymore).

I have been married for almost 2 years and I have been through some of the worst times of my life, my married life, our life. I have also been my happiest during that time… I love my husband, I love my kids, I love my life.

Happy Hearts Day sweetie!

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