It will be Mother’s day in a couple of weeks. It makes me think about my mom.
I have always been at odds with my mom. Maybe it is true what most experts say – that mothers and their relationships with their daughters become complex because they love each other so much. Mothers have great influence over their daughters and it is a fact that a casual comment can make even grown women cower in tears. I know my mother has that affect on me and my sisters. I guess being women, we look up to our mothers from the day we were born.
More than once I vowed not to be like my mom. I promised myself that when I get married and have kids I wouldnt be like my mom.
Now I am a mother myself and I see myself turning into my own mother. And it is not a bad thing. In retrospect, I realized that I wouldnt be like anyone else except her. Why? Because she has been a major part of my life for the past 31 years and her presence in it has not diminished – even if I have physically moved out of the old folks’ house. It is because of her that I am what I am now – well, a more enhanced version if I must say.
Here are some things I feel I have inherited from my mom:
- resilience
- patience
- ability to love unconditionally
- service
- resourcefulness
- strength
- unbreakable spirit
- flexibility
- obsessive compulsiveness
- courteousness
- willingness
There are a lot more I could list down if not for my lack of expertise in vocabulary. My only regret is that I did not inherit her strong sense of what’s right and the courage to stand up for it.
Oh I do have the courage to stand up for what I believe in. But sometimes, what I believe in may not always be right.
So you see, I did end up like my mom. But is that so bad?
I love you mom. Happy mother’s day!
I consider my daughters as my best friends. I know when to put on the hat as a mom or as a friend. I hope my daughters look back (just like you did) and remember everything I told them about life,
hi Apple!
i agree. it’s when the moment we became mothers ourselves that we came to appreciate more and realize the sacrifices of our mothers for us.
advance happy Mothers to you!
@Noemi
- I definitely see you being friends with your daughters. My mom is the same. I recall that we used to go out at night together and I think a lot of my “social” skills I got or learned from her.
Im sure your daughters will remember. Its obvious youre a great mom!
@Feng
- Hey there! I totally agree. My mom used to tell me that when we were kids but I just shrugged it off and thought she was crazy. Now I admitted (to her) that I was wrong and that I feel now what she felt before raising us kids (who were in turn giving her a hard time as kids do).
Like what Feng said, I learned to appreciate my mom more when I had my son. I love my mom very much. I admire her patience, kindness, nurturing attitude and determination. I wish I could be at least half of the woman she is.
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