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Losing my husband

In our almost 2 years of marriage, my husband and I have never been out of touch with one another. Even when he went abroad for a month, he had to get himself a blackberry just so we could stay in touch 24×7.

When his company sent him to an overnight seminar, we still managed to stay in touch. But that should be normal for two people who love each other and are married to each other.

What is not normal is not hearing from each other for an extended period of time especially when you are not sure where the other is at.

A few days ago, I dropped off my husband at Glorietta 3. He was attending an event that was being held for gamers like himself (please don’t ask me for details as I am clueless about all that gaming stuff). He had mentioned that he was low on battery already but that it was ok since he was only staying until 10 or 11pm. I didn’t mind. I planned to wait up for him anyway as he says he was just going to take a cab home.

And so I went home already in anticipation of a long night spent in front of my computer.  I was able to fill my time with some surfing and watching late night tv that I really did not notice that so much time had passed. It was already 11pm when I tried to call my husband’s mobile phone. Hmm… “cannot be reached” was the message I got. I guessed that his battery finally gave up on him and settled down to wait another hour. I wasn’t really worried.

After another hour passed with no word, that was the time my heart was already pounding. All the time that the clock ticked I would dial his number. No answer. I dialed again. No answer. That isn’t like him. It isn’t like him at all. I looked at the clock again. It was already going on 2am and I imagined that the places in Glorietta would already be closed by then. Where was my husband??

I searched the net. Yes, I did. Since he was at an event with other bloggers and other gamers, there should be something or someone out there who would know something. I was right. I got in touch with one of his friends from his clan and was told that the game had ended hours ago. Yes my husband was there but left shortly after the event. Where was my husband??

It seems like such a short time had passed by but in reality three hours had passed and I had cried a bucket of tears. I don’t know where my husband was. I could not get in touch with him. I felt he had gotten into an accident. Maybe his phone was snatched? Fat chance as he was carrying a more expensive gadget and that was his pentax DSLR. Where was my husband??

I looked at the clock again to realize it was already 5 am. And yet no word. I was at wit’s end. I was about to call my brother so he could drive me to Makati to look for my missing husband. All the while I hoped he was just somewhere drunk and his friends probably didn’t want him to leave in such a condition. That was wishful thinking.

Just before six am, with my chest heavy and my eyes swollen from all the crying, I looked out the window and glimpsed a familiar face. It was my husband! I looked at his face and bawled out like a crazy lady… more out of relief than grief. It was as if a huge weight was lifted. I forgot all about my initial anger, paranoia, and worry. Only one thing was important, I have my husband back.

I recall a similar incident that caused such emotions to hit me and that was when my previous yaya got drunk and brandished a knife at my other yaya and the landlord of the apartment where I was staying. It was the only time that I felt that my own life would end as well.

Side note: Apparently, he and his gamer friends were picked up by patroling policemen at Reposo on their way their way to a bar. But that’s his story to tell.

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how scary. I could really feel your anguish. I am glad he is okay.

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Oh no, waiting til 6am! I would have died of worrying. I get paranoid already when my hub’s phone is out of reach for a couple of hours. What more several hours!
But what a very nice ending - you realized how precious he is to you. All’s well that ends well :)

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Noemi - I am glad too. It will now be one of those events that I will remember forever. :(

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Chateau - Yes, exactly! And I am really not used to not being out of reach of my husband or kids. I am just now relieved that nothing really “serious” happened to him. :)

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I feel the same whenever my husband comes home late from the hospital, or scientific meetings and his cellphone cannot be reached. But not til 6 AM or i’ll be scared to death!

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Something similar happened to us last year. Apparently, my husband decided to stop at a gas station and felt the urge to grab a bite at the convenience store beside it. What was supposed to be a quick stop turned into a 2 hour long feast. Boy, did he get it from me when he got home. BTW, he left the phone in the car. Smart :)

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amymd - That is exactly how I felt waiting up for my husband for hours.

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Kongkong622 - That was what I was hoping for actually. :) But after 3 hours with no word… I knew something bad happened.

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I also felt the same way when my hubby’s phone is out of reach.

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that was scary!!!scary. scary. i would have called the police already.

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Hailey - It was indeed. I was on the verge but I have more worrisome encounters with the police so I opted to wait for daylight instead.

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picked up by patroling policemen? hmmm…

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Michael.. hmm? Hmm! :)

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our situation is reversed, i am almost always the one that is lost. when i was 8 months preggy with my second kid, the whole family ( my hubby, BIL, SIL, PILs) was looking for me and my eldest daughter. i went shopping and forgot the time and my handy in the car :-) they already imagined me lying in pools of blood with a newborn baby in the arm and a crying toodler beside me. I found my FIL and BIL inside our house searching for me!

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raqgold - Haha. I can imagine how worried they must have been. :) I guess I find it difficult to handle those kinds of situations because I try to be in touch always. Control freak I am I think. Hehe.

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Hi! My name is ApplesH. I am a 30-something corporate slave kept alive by a steady stream of instant, brewed or flavored coffee. I can cook, clean, and drive like a maniac. I am also a devoted, demanding, and passionate wife. To my boys, I am a fiercely protective, doting, and proud mother. I am crazy about my husband and my kids. This is my life and here is my story.

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