Comments on: Feeding my children’s fears http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/ personal blog of a Filipina mother of 2 Fri, 29 Aug 2008 04:39:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Susan from UK web developers http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-709 Susan from UK web developers Mon, 19 May 2008 10:53:36 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-709 I saw a documentary film about fear and phobias and there was a woman who started visiting a psychologist because she did not want to transfer her fear to her children... And it helped. So if you would like, you can go to see one specialist too. Especially if it is serious. I know all my life how the fear and phobias are irrational and that is why I always wanted to touch everything what might be disgusting, like snakes, worms, frogs, some bugs and I'm not afraid of them, but somehow I could not get rid of fear of spiders (and some creatures with more than 4 legs). It is nothing serious, but I just do not like them and the bigger the spider is, the more I do no like it :-) Than I'm afraid of dark sometimes too... and of drunk people... - I have horrible nightmares with drunk people... I saw a documentary film about fear and phobias and there was a woman who started visiting a psychologist because she did not want to transfer her fear to her children… And it helped. So if you would like, you can go to see one specialist too. Especially if it is serious.
I know all my life how the fear and phobias are irrational and that is why I always wanted to touch everything what might be disgusting, like snakes, worms, frogs, some bugs and I’m not afraid of them, but somehow I could not get rid of fear of spiders (and some creatures with more than 4 legs). It is nothing serious, but I just do not like them and the bigger the spider is, the more I do no like it :-)
Than I’m afraid of dark sometimes too… and of drunk people… - I have horrible nightmares with drunk people…

]]> By: ApplesH http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-675 ApplesH Wed, 14 May 2008 13:57:38 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-675 GloriaMC - Yikes! Now THAT is what I do not want to happen to my 2 boys. :) GloriaMC - Yikes! Now THAT is what I do not want to happen to my 2 boys. :)

]]> By: ApplesH http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-674 ApplesH Wed, 14 May 2008 13:57:04 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-674 mixednuts - That is actually what I want for my kids. I want them to go discover their own fears or at least come up with their own (hehe). If they have to inherit anything from me, I do not want it to be fear. mixednuts - That is actually what I want for my kids. I want them to go discover their own fears or at least come up with their own (hehe). If they have to inherit anything from me, I do not want it to be fear.

]]> By: Gloria Mc http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-645 Gloria Mc Mon, 12 May 2008 17:22:25 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-645 OMG! At least you're "aware" of your irrational fears and you are trying to control them in the presence of your children. My sister has an irrational fear of loud, sudden noises -- especially BALLOONS! Anytime a toddler or child grabs a balloon at a birthday party, my sister's face suddenly contorts in fear, her hands cover her ears and she is in a sheer state of fear and discomfort. Her anguish affects everyone until someone is compelled to take the balloon away from the kid. Or, God forbid, it pops. Anyway, my nephew latched onto this fear. He is now a 22-year old man. It is NOT funny to see him squirm the same way now at parties. I yell at my sister now for passing this fear on to him. It's irrational, it's unfounded, it's debilitating, it's WEIRD! OMG! At least you’re “aware” of your irrational fears and you are trying to control them in the presence of your children. My sister has an irrational fear of loud, sudden noises — especially BALLOONS! Anytime a toddler or child grabs a balloon at a birthday party, my sister’s face suddenly contorts in fear, her hands cover her ears and she is in a sheer state of fear and discomfort. Her anguish affects everyone until someone is compelled to take the balloon away from the kid. Or, God forbid, it pops.
Anyway, my nephew latched onto this fear. He is now a 22-year old man. It is NOT funny to see him squirm the same way now at parties. I yell at my sister now for passing this fear on to him. It’s irrational, it’s unfounded, it’s debilitating, it’s WEIRD!

]]> By: mixednuts http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-610 mixednuts Fri, 09 May 2008 17:24:37 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-610 It is natural for us to pass on the fears we have to our children. At a certain point you will have to let them discover their own or else they won't take chances--of course this does not include touching snakes. It is natural for us to pass on the fears we have to our children. At a certain point you will have to let them discover their own or else they won’t take chances–of course this does not include touching snakes.

]]> By: ApplesH http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-608 ApplesH Fri, 09 May 2008 14:28:08 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-608 raqgold - takot ka rin pala sa dogs.. .hehe me too! raqgold - takot ka rin pala sa dogs.. .hehe me too!

]]> By: raqgold http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-595 raqgold Thu, 08 May 2008 08:18:56 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-595 i used to be afraid of the dark but now no more.. but i still dont like seeing lizards, yiks! i would think our kids would know if we are afraid of something and they tend to be afraid, too. kaya minsan, i need to be tougher lalo na when i see big dogs without leash, yay i used to be afraid of the dark but now no more.. but i still dont like seeing lizards, yiks! i would think our kids would know if we are afraid of something and they tend to be afraid, too. kaya minsan, i need to be tougher lalo na when i see big dogs without leash, yay

]]> By: Dette http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-580 Dette Tue, 06 May 2008 20:08:13 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-580 It's funny - or ironic - growing up, I was almost fearless. As a teen, even worse. But when I turned into a mother? And realized that all could be lost in a single moment? It quickly brought me to my senses. No more leering over the edge of Sunset Cliffs. P.S. If you're up for it, I've got a tag for you. ;) It’s funny - or ironic - growing up, I was almost fearless. As a teen, even worse. But when I turned into a mother? And realized that all could be lost in a single moment?

It quickly brought me to my senses. No more leering over the edge of Sunset Cliffs.

P.S. If you’re up for it, I’ve got a tag for you. ;)

]]> By: ApplesH http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-576 ApplesH Tue, 06 May 2008 12:52:26 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-576 marshi - Yey I'm not alone! Thanks for this revelation. At least now I can tell my hubby there's someone else like me. :) Its a pain for my hubby too but he knows enough not to argue otherwise I won't let him sleep! marshi - Yey I’m not alone! Thanks for this revelation. At least now I can tell my hubby there’s someone else like me. :)

Its a pain for my hubby too but he knows enough not to argue otherwise I won’t let him sleep!

]]> By: marshi http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/2008/05/04/feeding-my-childrens-fears/#comment-567 marshi Tue, 06 May 2008 00:42:45 +0000 http://apples-pie.com/mother-of-two/?p=113#comment-567 i thought i was d only one who wakes up my hubby in d middle of d night just to help me to the bathroom, hahaha, it was a total pain for him. i thought i was d only one who wakes up my hubby in d middle of d night just to help me to the bathroom, hahaha, it was a total pain for him.

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