When I was young, I always knew in my heart that I wanted a large family. In fact, I always chanted out loud that I wanted to have 5 boys and 1 girl for my children. Sort of creating a basketball team with my kids with a cheerleader to boot. Its funny how one’s young mind can exaggerate dreams.
I now have two lovely boys. I am happy and have realized how impractical it is to raise a large family especially with such hard times. And at my age, I don’t think it is even possible to give birth to 4 more kids unless I conceive quadruplets as in right now.
There is nothing worse than getting some not so good news to burst that happy bubble. A few weeks ago, my doctor told me that if I wanted another kid, I should start thinking about having one soon as I basically had about one more year before things got too risky for me to think about getting pregnant. My first reaction was “Really?”, in a tone of disbelief coupled with distrust at a professional’s diagnosis. Then I settled with “Why?”. She said if I push with having a baby 2 years from now it will really push my blood pressure through the roof and she doubts it will be a good thing.
I didn’t really tell anyone as I was still trying to absorb all the news. I finally had the courage to tell my husband in an offhand conversation while we were buying Christmas gifts for the kids. I guess I chose that moment so that I would be forced to keep a straight face while I delivered the news for fear of embarrassing myself in front of a floor filled with people. Truthfully, I probably just didn’t realize how much the news affected me until I actually told my husband about it.
After all that, we have now decided to beat the clock and try to conceive once more before some white-coated person tells me I can no longer have a child.
Sometimes it takes a major push for one to make decisions about their lives. We have made a huge decision today but we are hopeful that the future will continue to bring great things. The kids are growing up fast and the time is right for a baby in the house. One more time. One last time.
OMG…so sorry to hear that. hope you can make it before the deadline.
na-bother naman ako. does this mean i, too, have only a few years left? if so, i’ve got a very slim chance na to have kids. i mean, i don’t think i can have a kid now or even in 2011. but then, maybe by the time i can actually afford to raise a kid, it’d be over for me.
sigh. na-sad naman ako.
shine – I am sure I will make it. I am fortunate to have a very active and very healthy uterus. LOL. Dont base your life on mine although I would recommend you also get checked. My diagnosis is based on the fact that I have borderline hypertension and the doctor says that a pregnancy will really cause my BP to shoot up. You are still young although please dont wait till you can afford it to have a kid, otherwise you never will try to have one. Does that make sense? If you are ready then go. Readiness is the only prerequisite. Because once you are ready, you will do everything to be the best mom to your kid.
Good luck!
yeah. but will you ever know if you are really ready or not? i mean, for me, readiness requires being able to afford it. and the thing is, i don’t think it’s possible for anyone to be truly ready unless you’ve actually experienced giving birth before.
shine – I guess I should have been clearer. Readiness – meaning inside. Are you ready to give up yourself for another human being? Are you ready to sacrifice your days, nights and everything in between for another human being? Are you willing to give up that last piece for someone else? Are you willing to give up your lifestyle for someone else? I have no doubt you can afford it just as much as that lady who sells newspaper can afford it. All I am saying is that if you really want to, there should be no stopping you.
I gather that you’re in your thirties. Well, I was 41 when I gave birth to my child. In fact, where I am in San Francisco, CA, this is hardly unusual, but I have a special story for you. My “western” doctors thought that I would be the perfect candidate for high-risk pregnancy because I already had long-standing high blood pressure. So, I decided to incorporate Eastern medicine, specifically acupuncture into my prenatal regimen, and would you believe this? Not only did I avoid gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia, I also managed to lower the dosage of my hypertension meds. My western doctors were amazed! Of course, results may vary.
I’m happy and excited for you! Take extra special care with your health and I’m sure everything will be just fine.
Thanks for the thoughts Gloria MC!
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