Inside the mind of a woman

I read somewhere that keeping one’s relationship in constant repair is the way to keep it strong. My husband and I had a disagreement the other night that resulted in a 2 night silence. By the morning of the 3^rd day, I was at wits end and I guess so was he because as soon as apologies were uttered and hugs were exchanged… well lets just say that what happened next would put the phrase Kiss and make up to shame. It felt like college and hooking up with a hunk of a guy you just met at a bar. It was suddenly all lips, sucks, tongues, licks, and then kiss kiss bang bang. Whew! If making up would always be this awesome maybe we ought to fight a lot more (kidding!).

…. well not exactly…..

Before going to my website, I browsed through pinoyblog.com and came upon this post from Jam. It was the title that caught my eye. Its interesting to see how your own thoughts can also be someone else’s or how your questions seem to be the same ones you would hear from a neighbor, a colleague or a friend. I will not attempt to answer – rather I would but will keep the answers to myself (don’t be nosy!). I have picked out and posted the questions that I feel are important and should be (should have) been answered before marriage.

1. Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
2. Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
3. Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
4. Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
5. Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
6. Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?